I’m not a non person!!

June 11, 2010

Why is it that if you’re single you’re considered to be a non person?

I’ve lost count of the number of times I’ve not been invited to that wedding or party or christening or other event, where the only reason for this exclusion seems to be that I’m single.

Why is that?
Are people just uncomfortable inviting someone who’s on their own,  do they simply just forget about you and not remember you’re there, just cos there’s only 1 of you?

It’s a horrible thing. Life is hard enough as it is being a single person within our society which seems to be very much geared around couples, without friends “forgetting” you at special times. Yes, going to events on your own can be hard – I must admit arriving on my own somewhere can be a horrible thing.  Actually going in through the door on your own, into a room full of people in pairs is something I really do hate.  It doesnt do wonders for your self-confidence and on the contrary it can even make you feel inferior, that there’s something wrong with you!  But, at the end of the day actually being involved & included is much better than being ignored & forgotten.

So why do I have to be part of a couple just to become an entity, someone who is included in things, someone who has a part to play, someone who can add some value to things, someone who is a person in their own right?

It’ll be a sad day when people will exclude you just because you’re single but I very much think that that day is already here 😦


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